Real Life.....I have been a member of HPEP and also of EROS in Houston. During my time with EROS, I organized several classes and discussions. I have spoken on the topic of " Single in the Scene:The In's and Outs of Negotiating Casual Encounters" Also, hands-on demos on the "Screw the Roses": Bondage Rope Dress, and A Primer on Massage. Independently I organized a class in August of 99 for American Heart Association CPR certification for Kinky people. On occasion I hold small private discussion and reading groups in my home with serious devotees of D/s. In May of 2001 I was pleased to host a Dominant's workshop at the Leather boys training classes in Dallas. I have also been a member of D/s Friends in NYC thank you Vicktor. I have also attended the premiere Master's Retreat Held in Dallas Texas in December of 1999 and again the third Retreat In February 2002. I require those who train with me r/l to attend the boys camp's and similar workshops for High Protocol background. Every Year I try to arrange at least one national outing with my bunch either Black Rose or Thunder in the Mountains for continuing workshops in D/s Lifestyle. I have been a moderator in a local BDSM Art Group known as SCANDAL, and I was a founding member of "Masters and slaves Together "of Houston MAsT-H. I am a co-founder and moderator of a Yahoo group and local club called Violet_Society. My last public invovlement locally was with a Private Club teaching couples the art of using D/s and M/s to enhance their relationships.

After contributing to my local community for several years...I explore privately now with several close friends and serious partners. I am working on a book on Domination and submission. I enjoy traveling to events and seminars when time permits. I have attended the GWNN Birthday Bash in Austin 2002, HPEP S&M Ball in March of 2002, Master's Retreat in Dallas in February 2002 and Thunder in the Mountains in Denver August of 2001. I attended Vicious Valentine 2003 in Chicago and from time to time facilitate or volunteer in my local community. I have privately contributed to several individuals and causes of a kink nature over the years as funds permit.

I am warm, friendly, and I have a "BAD" sense of humor embracing the lowest form (word play and the Pun). My on line style at times parodies the HNG. Those not sophisticated enough to tolerate the humor and noise I generate, miss meeting an okay guy and a caring friend. I staunchly defend Safe Sane Consensual contact and encourage others to do the same. I am divorced since 2001 from my spouse of 18 years, who is vanilla but has dabbled in all of this. We remain responsible parents to two daughters though our paths have taken us in separate directions. I am a single parent to the youngest.

My Dom style is a strong but quiet nature. I do not deal well with high maintenance subs (SAM: Smart Assed Masochists) who instigate trouble just to generate attention or get their punishment. If you want my attention, just beg or grovel or let me know directly (What a concept!)

If you are belligerent or feisty challenging or testy you can expect less attention from me. I subscribe to a concept of "absence of presence" rather than strict discipline for most annoying infractions. Serious violations of a submissive agreement or demeanor may summon the hairbrush, and out right defiance or deception has been grounds for dismissal in r/l in the past. Be advised.

I always get to know a sub, their interests,preferences,and aversions, before assigning safe words and commencing exploration. (Note: I oft times prefer to refer to experiences as "exploration" or "work" rather than "play")

I believe someone "Submits" to someone else out of a mutual interest in exploring, rather then because a leash mandates such behavior (though I enjoy working with a leash during play and travel.). The strongest bonds I have ever experienced with r/l submissives had no hardware connecting us.
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I have had several regular friends and explore-mates. In the mid to late 90's I was responsible for training several in my home at one time. I don;t equate this to "poly" pe se but many pthers hung that moniker on me/us. With few exceptions these former students or trainees have developed into caring and meaningful friendship / relationship that exists regardless of the D/s play element. I am open to training new folks, though I have learned to be extremely careful about who might qualify for my attention. I am very selective in whom I devote time and feelings with. If I suspect D/s is not a healthy option for someone I will not engage in it.

 

I am proud to announce that I have placed a silver collar on a close companion of mine who will be known here as daddy's pet. She is new to lifestyle, but intelligent, mature and very open to learning and sharing. She is very excited about those meeting people I work and play with in lifestyle. She is also energetic about learning all she can. daddy's pet is only the second person I have fully collared in real life in my 12 years exploring. She tends to me and my clan well and has earned the chain that rests around her neck.

I have previously encouraged and required those who would serve me regularly in real life, to have exposure to High Protocol either in boy training or privately with serious Leatherfolk. In recent years and after some life changing experiences and growth I still respect and embrace those traditions but I am far more laid back about it all now. To many, I am quite the nurturing "Daddy" role. (no.. not the pedophelia kind). One description that fits best might be a Nurturing Sadist.

 

Name Dropping
I have called Master Jim and His slave marsha friends (International Master / slave of 2002.) My former collared (sunshine) and I have hosted Lady Victoria former NLA International President, in our home. I have had the honor of meeting Jack Rinella, John Warren and Diva Midori on several occasions Steve Sampson of Butchmann's, Master Dean of Dallas, Ms. Mine who once offered to edit my book, Master Doug and his boy bob (God rest his soul) of Sanctuary of the Dark Angel - Atlanta. I have had dinner with Molly Devon ( Screw the Roses) and Laura Antineau ( the Market Place series) I have had several meals and attended a workshop with Lord Colm (CastleRealm creator) and I have attended classes with the likes of Jay Wiseman, Race Bannon, Mark Frasier, Dottie Easton, Guy Baldwin, Pat Califia, Joseph Bean and Frank Strona among others.

To me.. Domination is an art, and a craft. I enjoy real life encounters with other Dominants to learn more. I consider it a Guild of sorts: as we take lives hearts souls and bodies into our hands we are entrusted and have a high duty. To my way of thinking...Dominants have an obligation to train each other and watch out for each others property. That doesn't mean All Dominants are of this caliber, but I do seek out the best I can as mentors and guides in my quest of becoming a real Master. I know those who worry about me or my people do so with honest concern, even if they don't always understand the dynamics of our group. In my realm the goal for all, be they Dominant or submissive is to achieve your personal best.

I am just as comfortable for example, with a simple scene of mind play, control, or a light to moderate spanking. It all depends on the person and the negotiations.

Training, Bondage, Discipline, moderate pain, sexual discovery and even humiliation are all found in my bag of tricks. Name your poison! <wicked grin> Dom's or submissives or even the undecided are always welcome to contact us.

Did you really read all of this?!? LOL Drop me a line. Ask me anything.