A submissive's Bill
of Rights
You have the right
to be treated with respect. Not only do you have this
right, you have the right to demand it. Being submissive
does not make you a doormat or less of a person than
anyone else. The word "submissive" describes
your nature and in no way diminishes you as a human
being. You have the right to respect yourself as well.
You have the right to be proud of
what you are. Being a submissive is nothing that should
ever bring you shame or feelings of reproach. Your submissive
nature is a gift and should always be a source of pride
and happiness.
You have the right to feel safe.
Being a submissive should not make you feel afraid,
insecure or threatened. Submission is not about living
on the edge or flirting with fear. In any situation
you should feel safe or there can never be true surrender.
You have the right to your emotions
and feelings. Your emotions and feelings come from you
and they are just as valid as anyone else's. You have
a right to them. Those feelings, whether positive or
negative, make you who you are and suppressing them
will only bring unhappiness later.
You have the right to express your
negative feelings. Being submissive does not make you
an object that no longer has negative thoughts or concerns.Your
concerns are real and you have every right to express
them. If something doesn't feel right, bothers you,
makes you feel bad or you just plain don't like something,
say so. Failing to express your negative feelings could
give the mistaken impression that you are pleased or
satisfied with something that is not pleasurable or
agreeable.
You have the right to say NO. Being
submissive does not take away your right to have dislikes
or negative feelings about things. If something is happening
or about to happen that you feel strongly opposed to,
it's your duty to speak up. Remember, failing to communicate
the word NO is the same as saying YES.
You have the right to expect happiness
in life. Being submissive is not tantamount to being
miserable, suffering or a life of despair. Your submission
should bring you joy, peace and fulfillment. If it doesn't,
then something is wrong.
You have the right to have input
in a relationship. You are an active partner in any
relationship you enter and have every right to contribute
to it. You are submissive, not passive. A relationship
that doesn't include your needs, thoughts, hopes and
desires is not one you should be in to begin with. This
applies to friendships, partnerships and D/s relationships.
You have the right to belong. Being
submissive greatly involves the feeling of belonging.
Many submissives have expressed that it was in discovering
their submissive nature that they felt as through they
"belonged" for the first time in their lives.
You belong to the lifestyle and will eventually belong
to the One. It's in that relationship you should find
the final fulfillment of "belonging" at last.
You have the right to be loved and
to love. Anyone who tells you that love doesn't fit
into a D/s relationship has never experienced the fulfillment
of all it truly can be. Submissives are by nature loving
and needing of love and have every right to expect this
to be a part of their lives. It takes love to bring
your submission into full bloom, so don't settle for
less.
You have the right to be healthy.
Health involves your physical, mental and emotional
well-being. Any relationship, D/s or otherwise, that
causes you to suffer physically, mentally or emotionally,
beyond your limits, is abuse. There is no place for
abusive behavior in a D/s relationship and it's up to
you to make sure those lines are not crossed.
Being a submissive does not give anyone the right to
harm or injure you in any way. The D/s community will
stand behind you if you should encounter such a situation
but you are the one who has to make them aware before
they can help.
You have the right to practice safe
sex. Not only is this a right, it's a duty to yourself
and others you may come into contact with at a later
date. Sexually transmitted diseases have reached epidemic
proportions and must be a concern to any sexually active
person. Safe Sex is something you have the right to
insist upon and protecting yourself should never be
discouraged by anyone who really has your best interests
at heart.
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