Transparency
No privacy of thoughts
I will not keep things from my Master. Doing so builds walls between us.
Transparency in Service
http://www.bestslavetraining.com/Thoughts.htm
No privacy of thoughts can be tolerated by a slave in training. A slave should be trained to be open (often called transparency) to discussing her beliefs and private logic and feelings. Explaining what is expected of her and positive reinforcement are the best methods of getting a slave to become open. It is a Master's duty to insure that his slave understands that in order for her to be properly trained, she is helpless in keeping her private thoughts and feelings to herself. Questions that are asked by her Master must be answered from her deepest feelings and thoughts. Only by doing so is change possible.
http://www.castlerealm.com/library/march98art.shtml
Trust is at the heart of the issue. Those who have been abused will probably find it very difficult to be vulnerable to another. Where they have had their control wrenched from them involuntarily, they will naturally hold onto it very tightly. I used this understanding to guide my actions. In every action and deed, I had to show her I was worthy of her trust, and that I would not abuse her vulnerabilities. Rather than punish her for her struggles, I gently encouraged her to open up and speak about what was going on in her heart and mind. I offered her tools to help her find alternative ways of dealing with the pain. Early on, I realized that she was unwilling to communicate to me that she was in crisis, so I gave her a simple, non-threatening phrase that she could use to let me know: "Master, I'm struggling right now and I'm not able to talk about it." Think of it as an emotional safeword. When she did use it, I understood that it was time for me to be nurturing and supportive, to not press her. To help replace her negative thoughts with constructive ones, I gave her other tools, too. You can read about one of them on our page entitled The Shoe Box. These techniques worked wonders. I let her know that I wasn't going to abandon her simply because she had failed to please me on occasion. I reassured her, encouraged her to share her burdens with me and not attempt to carry them alone.
http://www.castlerealm.com/library/shoebox.shtml
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